Does your child sometimes just refuse to obey your requests? Are your kids noncompliant and openly resistant to what is required of them? Defiance, for parents, is one of the more challenging behaviors to handle, because it can require big efforts and some creativity to combat such blatant disobedience and deliberate disregard.
If you don't want your kids to keep running the show, here are a couple of things you can do:
1.) Define clear consequences. Discuss with your child what will happen if he or she chooses not to follow your rules. Following through with the consequences, however, is a must!
2.) Get deep. Talk it out and connect emotionally with the goal of understanding the drive for their behavior, putting all defenses and agendas aside. If they won't open up to you, it is important to find someone that they will discuss it with.
Intu It works with parents on appropriate and effective techniques to take back your parental authority, how to define important boundaries and consequences that are right for your family, and how to connect with and understand your child. :)