Have you ever felt like you are a full-time referee for your kids? Are you constantly dragged into their quarrels only to play judge as each pleads their case? Rivalry between siblings is a very normal part of growing up. But why is this conflict so common?
There are several factors that can trigger sibling rivalry, including differences in understanding, age, expectation, and temperament; jealousy, comparison, and competition; and the way parents model problem-solving and handle disagreement.
So, what's a parent to do? Unfortunately, you cannot eliminate squabbles and bickering, but you can learn to handle it in effective and productive ways that teach important and long-lasting interpersonal skills. Some helpful things to consider:
1.) Work WITH your kids to resolve conflict, rather than work it out for them. There are many benefits to this, and helps kids to problem solve.
2.) Separate kids until they are calm. Tension can escalate quickly otherwise.
3.) Don't focus on who is at fault, focus on resolution.
4.) Have each child learn to admit responsibility, and discuss what they can do better next time.
Intu It works with kids to develop effective communication, problem-solving skills, creative peacemaking strategies, and more harmonious relationships with siblings and peers. There are MANY strategies for how to handle fighting and help kids get along, so let Intu It give you all the tools you need for more peaceful sibling relationships. :)