What determines whether someone flourishes or languishes after a setback? Is it genetics? Childhood experiences? Financial circumstances? Relationship status?
The answer lies essentially in our ability to make meaning of an event. Life adversity is not the problem, it is our comprehension of the world around us, our beliefs that create our perspective, and thus, our experience of life.
Making meaning of mishaps and misfortune is one of the key factors of resilience. So after we grieve, wallow, and eat ice cream, we get to choose how to use it to move forward.
We are naturally resilient and wired to seek new possibilities, we just sometimes get stuck in a story that has us starring as the victim.
Instead, ask yourself: How did you grow? What strengthened? What do you appreciate more? What do you know now that you didn't before?
Choosing your story is personal mastery. You are the author, how do you want your story to go?