You’ll learn exactly how to reflect and where you stand on your parenting path with tools and questions to stimulate reflection and bring about awareness, so that you begin to gain comfort with observing your physical, mental, and emotional states, and get clear about your parenting vision and goals. This means that you won’t be jumping into the learning part of this material without having properly self-assessed first, a crucial step in the transformation process.

You’ll learn the 10 core pillars of empowered parenting, the traditional parenting styles, and become aware of your own generational parenting patterns, so that you can recognize the behaviors you were raised with and how it influenced you. This means that you’ll be able to identify unhelpful parenting tactics and avoid repeating the same behaviors with your children.

You’ll learn the different attachment styles and how your system learns how to organize behavior to meet your need for safety and security, so that you can understand, not only how your attachment style was formed, but also all about your child’s attachment to you. You’ll also do some extensive personal reflection exercises here, so that you can begin making sense of the ways you seek security and connection today, no longer having to unconsciously react to reach a state of safety.

You’ll learn and understand how the body responds to threat, why so many of your child’s behaviors are perceived as a threat, and how to retrain your nervous system to resolve this. You’ll also learn the different states of the nervous system and how to work with your child to reach a state of security. This will teach you how to have the capacity to be present. This means that you will know how to feel peace, ease, and patience during conflict and emotional outbursts, without having to struggle managing your own emotions or your child’s emotions.

You will learn how to really see your child and what they are really trying to tell you underneath their behavior, and clearing out what gets in the way of us being able to do that daily, so that you can develop greater understanding and responsiveness when your child struggles, being able to give them exactly what they need most from you. This means that you’ll no longer keep spiraling down each time with your child into disconnection, conflict, or further dysregulation.

You’ll learn how to name and monitor your own feelings and emotions, as well as help your child do the same, how to most effectively communicate feelings and needs, and develop a deep capacity for empathy, so that you’ll increase your comfort and ability to feel your emotions without feeling the need to rage or hide all the time.

You’ll learn all about your relationship with your voice and self-expression, processes for the most effective communication, and generational habits that keep us from connecting in conversation, so that you can speak in a way that fosters the utmost connection and cooperation in your family. This means that you won’t have to resort to shouting, threats, or keep repeating yourself to gain respect or acknowledgement. You’ll be able to have conversations with them that go smoothly and don’t actually end in a feud every time.

You’ll learn my 5-step signature process that can be used for any everyday parenting scenario with your child, replacing all disciplinary strategies like threats, punishments, bribes, timeouts, and trying to come up with consequences. You’ll also learn how to establish boundaries and limits that are respected, and the absolute best ways to approach consequences that promote trust, collaboration, peace, and connection. This means that you won’t have to exhaust yourself with constantly trying to use force or manipulation to gain respect and cooperation ever again.

You’ll learn the purpose and value of anger, your personal relationship with anger and how to develop a healthy and appropriate relationship with it, and powerful everyday tools for navigating anger and aggression, so that you can show up for your child in total security and confidence when they display anger and aggression, and know exactly how to be with them in their anger and guide them. This means that you won’t have to feel dread or fear your child’s big feelings, or have to fight against their anger, which often leads to explosive arguments, disconnection, and the gradual erosion of your relationship with them. So that they feel like they can lean on you in their distress, rather than need to protect themselves from you.

You’ll learn the huge variety of playful ways you can connect with your child, no matter their age, the types of play that your child prefers most, and the types of play that you like best, your limits in play, and even your wounding around play, so that play is not just a luxury once all the chores and to-dos are checked off, but an important and integral part of your daily parenting, that can alleviate a lot of the seriousness that comes with accomplishing our daily tasks. You’ll also learn how to teach your child important life lessons and concepts through storytelling.

For this mentorship, there is an online portion (workbooks and video tutorials) and 1:1 coaching. It is designed to be completed in 10 weeks, 1 week for each lesson. We will meet via phone or Zoom 1 hour per week to deep-dive into that week’s lesson and your specific parenting circumstance surrounding the topic. The program is flexible, because life happens. So if you need more time for each lesson, we can work at a slower pace. It is recommended that you complete the online portion each week first before each coaching session, so that you can get the most out of our time together.

The program is for parents only. It is specifically designed to be a parent-centric program because when parents change, children change.

The program material can be applied to all parent-child relationships, no matter what age, but I specialize in helping parents of children around ages 2 - 9.

Definitely! It is ideal to have the child’s caregivers be involved and on the same page. However, it is not necessary in order to achieve the maximum benefits of this program. The full benefits are completely possible with one caregiver involved.

Absolutely! Much of how we respond to our children today has to do with the fears, beliefs, and coping tools we formed in our childhood. Our kids’ emotions and behaviors bring up painful experiences from our past, and leads us to reactivity. So learning about our own emotions and nervous system and conditioned responses to stress, we can change it, and that - in turn - affects how we behave with our children. Because it is our responsibility to show them constructive ways of handling emotions, of regulating, and of reaching inner security. It is not effective to try to make our children do this without us doing this ourselves, when they learn everything about regulation from our actions and behaviors. Your new ability to show up with ease, presence, and more peace, will affect how your child thinks and feels about you, and about being around you, and their relationship with you. When you change, your child changes. Your improvement is the most powerful stimulus for improvement in your child.

I proudly offer parents both the inner transformation AND the outer transformation. It’s not just tools to change your outside environment, and it’s certainly not tools to try to change or fix your child’s behavior. Trying to execute tools to change your environment without having done any inner change is like trying to ice the ingredients of a cake - the eggs, oil, water, and cake mix - when it hasn’t even been mixed or baked yet. It leads to disappointment, frustration, and feeling like a failure. I teach parents tools, strategies, and frameworks to do the inner work of building empathy, curiosity, emotional intelligence, security, and self-responsibility, and to do the outer work of building leadership, communication, navigating conflict, and boundary-setting, for a full, lasting, transformative experience in their everyday parenting and in their relationship with their child. Plus, the combination of my personal life experience with my formal education and expertise is the sprinkles on top!

This is strictly a coaching-based program that helps you identify the ways you have learned to cope with stress in your life, how you bring that into your parenting, and how it may not be in service to you any longer or your relationship with your child, where you learn to form new, supportive ways of coping that fosters a more loving relationship with your child. Although the nature of this work is therapeutic and transformational, it utilizes a coaching framework.

As we work together through this program, if there are deeper, ongoing, underlying issues that surface, or if your child has experienced trauma or a significant event, it is important to seek the help of a licensed therapist.

Nope! No matter your past, your current approaches, or your child’s specific qualities and needs, the concepts of empowered parenting hold true and effective for any parent, because it is rooted in the science of physiology, cognition, emotions, the nervous system, human behavior and development. And how these systems function, grow, and thrive. You don’t need to try to avoid certain scenarios or situations for this to work, either. This approach is wayyy more sound and stable than that. And also, included are the basic approaches of acceptance, understanding, and having your child feel seen and heard, approaches that are healing across the board, no matter your past or present circumstances.

It is never too late to mend your relationship with your child, no matter their age. And this program gives you age-appropriate approaches for your child, regardless of what age or stage they’re in. These concepts and approaches apply across the board.

In the off-chance that your child does grow out of it, have they really learned the life-enriching tools you want for them? Or have they just learned how to behave in order to survive or earn your love? If you knew how to improve your parenting and your relationship with your child, you would have already. But you need guidance, so that you can stop wasting time struggling, and so that your child can stop struggling. A certain amount of struggle is completely typical and expected. But if you are spending most of your time feeling stressed, angry, or frustrated with your child’s behavior, this is your solution. By waiting to see if your child outgrows this phase, you’re wasting so much precious time that you could be guaranteed to enjoy with your child.

Wonderful question! Depending on the issues you’re experiencing, it can be difficult to decipher. What I can say with confidence is this. Whether your child needs other support or not, they will benefit from you making this transformation. If much of what you struggle with is related to what you’ve been reading here, this program is perfect for you. I always recommend seeing what resolves once a parent completes this parenting process. More often than not, I hear from parents that their struggles with their child have been resolved, beyond their expectations. Your improvement is the most powerful stimulus for improvement in your child.

It is common for us to mistake the unprocessed anger, fear, and sadness from exposure to harsh or neglectful parenting as strength. This “toughness” is nothing more than a shield we have learned to wear to protect ourselves because we don’t actually have the skills of true resilience. Harsh or neglectful parenting don’t actually teach true resilience. They mostly teach children how to shape and edit their actions and emotions so that they survive.